‘Readjust in a Spirit of Mildness’

 
“Brothers, even though a man takes some false step before he is aware of it, you who have spiritual qualifications try to readjust such a man in a spirit of mildness, as you each keep an eye on yourself, for fear you also may be tempted.” (Galatians 6:1) The apostle Paul thus pointed out that those having “spiritual qualifications” should try to readjust a Christian who “takes some false step before he is aware of it.” 

Sometimes it seems that those least qualified to do so are most inclined to give advice. Hence, do not be too quick to counsel others. (Proverbs 10:19; James 1:19; 3:1) It is primarily the congregation elders who are spiritually qualified to do this. Of course, any mature Christian should sound a warning if he sees a brother walking into danger.
 
If you do offer advice or counsel, be sure to base what you say on godly wisdom, not on human theories and philosophies. (Colossians 2:8) Be like the careful cook who makes sure that any ingredients used are wholesome and free of anything that might be poisonous. Make sure that your counsel is firmly based on God’s Word and not simply on personal opinion. (2 Timothy 3:16, 17) By doing this, you can be sure your counsel will not harm anyone.
 
The objective of the counsel is to “readjust” the erring one, not to force unwilling change. The Greek word rendered “readjust” is related to a term that pertains to the resetting of a dislocated bone in order to prevent further damage. According to lexicographer W. E. Vine, it also suggests “the necessity for patience and perseverance in the process.” Imagine the gentleness and skill required to avoid inflicting unnecessary physical pain. Similarly, a counselor needs to exercise great care so as to avoid hurting the one being counseled. This is difficult enough when someone requests counsel. When your counsel is not requested, even greater skill and tact are required.
 
You certainly will not “readjust” anyone if you alienate him. To avoid doing this, bear in mind the need to display “the tender affections of compassion, kindness, lowliness of mind, mildness, and long-suffering.” (Colossians 3:12) If a doctor is impatient and unnecessarily rough, the patient may ignore his advice and never return for needed treatment.
 
This does not mean that counsel should lack firmness. Jesus Christ was firm when he counseled the seven congregations in the district of Asia. (Revelation 1:4; 3:1-22) He gave them some very direct counsel that they needed to hear and apply. But Jesus’ firmness was always balanced with such qualities as compassion and kindness, reflecting the loving spirit of his heavenly Father.—Psalm 23:1-6; John 10:7-15.